The other day a friend asked me to go with him salsa dancing on a Sunday. I agreed to it letting him know that I wanted to be home by 11pm. Well, at midnight we were still in the club and he suggested we went to celebrate his birthday on that just barely born Monday to Perfect 10, “an upscale Gentlemen’s club with over 300 elegant women eager to entertain you”.
I have only been a handful of times in my life to these places and it shows. I’m like a duck in a garage. I’m not in my element but probably not only because I don’t have much experience, but more relevantly because I have so many judgments about these places that I’m unable to relax and have a good time.
So, even though I “should” have already been in bed by 11pm, the following three things: going “against” my rules and “shoulds”, challenging myself to go to a strip club with an open mind and celebrating my friend’s birthday made me end up going there on Sunday night/Monday morning with him.
Now that I write about it, it feels like I need a previous tone of rationalization to let go of my pre-established plans and do something fun and spontaneous. -Note to self: Look into that.-
However the most important thing was that I was able to observ lot’s of judgments, let them go and have a good time.
A true spiritual path means that you are open to everything, that you let go of all pre-conceived judgments, that you live with your heart and not with a list of should and shouldn’ts. Just free, responding to the moment in the moment without pre-fabricated answers.
That is total freedom, every situation, every observation, every insight and every decision need to point in that direction. Lucky me, and lucky all, that not everything is suffering and fear when taking the ghosts of regret, resentment, gilt and embarrassment out of the closet. Occasionally you can take them out with fun and style and naked women are a better way for doing so than smart ass guys.