I notice my mother “hovering” all over me continuously and ask her to take care of herself instead of me. She tells me that she is happy when her children are happy. I need to tell her that “if for her to be happy I need to be happy, this means two things: one, that I’m her vehicle for her to be happy and two, that her rationale makes me her prisoner as she needs to control me and my happiness so she can be happy”.
I need to make her stop controlling me for me to be in peace as she is driving me crazy.
I then realize the irony, I also need her to act in a certain way for me to be happy.
In the following hour I read this from Byron Katie: “We say to others only what we need to hear ourselves.”